6-20-11 Knowing When to Help
I have been getting lessons on when and how to help others this weekend.......
Friday I worked from home and since I hadn't slept well the night before I hit the couch for a little nap right after quitting time. That didn't last long, Jeremy called me like 20 min later (what is it about your kids no matter the age as soon as you either fall asleep or get on the phone they want you for something?) lol. He was bored and he was lonely and he's living in our old house all alone. He rigged the electricity and found an old mattress down in the barn and was making due, he said it sure is wierd though being here alone, now you know how I felt since you moved out in January! He started going on about his problems till I started to get chest pains, I finally said you need to go see a profesional because I don't have all the answers for you and you never did listen to me anyway, I told him to come down for a few days he is always welcome and then I hung up. I got my bike out and was going to ride down to the bay but the tires needed air and it started sprinkling rain, I went back inside and it stopped so I decided to drive down, I put on water shoes and got a plastic bag and my little voice said come on put on a little make up, so I did (working from home you get a little lax, I do shower but that's about it when I am home) I parked and walked to where they were fishing and watched for a bit then I saw a hermit crab upside down on the shore line, he was moving his legs and I wondered if I should help him, while debating this one of the fishermen came over and I said I think he's still alive should we help him? He said no leave him be he will right himself her in a bit, and he must have because when I went back he was gone. So I put everyone's troubles out of my mind and I went into town to get a shrimp sandwich and I sat and ate it and listed to the music at open mic night then took a walk by the water.
Saturday I got up and put air in my tires and rode my bike down to the bay to walk, collect shells and stones. There were a lot of horseshoe crabs upside down and I watched them right themselves, I did help one (below) because he had so many things stuck to him, they looked like hermit crabs, but anyway I figured how can he right himself with all these parasites hanging on him? So I helped him and another one that was really far from the water over in a gully. I reflected on how this compares to life, if we get too far from shore we need a little help and we defintely can't help ourselves with a bunch of parasites clinging to us....take lessons from nature as there are plenty of them...
In the afternoon I ran out to get a basket for my bike, I had made a fool of myself earlier trying to get on it with my stiff knees and my bag of shells and ended up on the pavement, my face was red and not just from the sun! So I went and bought a basket, and said a prayer to be able to attach it myself or someone to help me. Then I went to pick up pork roast to make pulled pork in the crock pot for Shawn's first day here and they had boogie boards on sale for $9.99...I HAD to get one! Now I hope I make it down to Sandy Hook tommorow afternoon once I get Shawn settled in.
In the evening was my singles event and boy did that turn out to be a disaster! I had over 30 signed up so I told the place 25, and only 7 showed up! The place billed me for 25 because they made a buffet of food for 25! I had to shell out $375 to pay for it all. My friends were feeling so bad for me, they said box it up and take it home, offer it to the other groups that are there for half off, in the end I just offered it to the other groups for free and called it a loss. God would make it up to me and not leave me to broke, apparently he still does not want me to earn money this way. I didn't stay after that and since Mary had come we talked in the parking lot for a bit. She said Cassie this is not what you are supposed to be doing, the energy in that room was so draining, I can see why you don't enjoy doing this anymore. Everyone has the same old sad story and they don't want to change the same old sad story, and they aren't looking at who the can give to but who can give to them, it's time to change what you are doing. You are right I told her very right, I know that even myself, as far as I have come and as much as I have changed I still have work to do on myself. I suddenly had an ah ha moment! It was time for me to stop trying to help everyone find the right person for a relationship or friendship but instead do things to help them to BE the right person! And as if to confirm this for me Nancy wrote back and agreed to a date for our first Your Yoga event....
Sunday I got up and posted this to facebook: texted all the Dad's on my phone, even Randy as he is a father to those boys who live with him and they did and do need him. I had already sent my Dad a card and some money. I put the pork roast in the crock pot and went to mass so that I could honor my heavenly father. Shaun didn't end up getting there till after 4 so I never made it to the beach but we hung out and he took me out for dinner and we did a lot of cathching up and he helped me put the basket on my bike and said he would also help with the light Randy neve came over to fix as he had promised. He asked about Jeremy and when I told him he said he may be able to help him out as he knows some people, I told him how much I wished Jeremy would come down here and stay sometimes and eventually get an apartment down here and as if on cue Jeremy called! He was all upset and said they put a warrant out on him for missing his court dates and he needed to get out of town, he has posted bail for so many (especailly Mike) but there is no one to return the favor for him so I told him to ride his bike to my office by 4 on Monday and he could come down for a few days to figure all this out. He can arrange to handle things with out having to sit in jail waiting for a court date and Shawn can advise him and be a bit of a buddy to him for awhile, it's almost as if Gus was watching over us and sending some help down for us.....we do need a little....
The other thing I had time to do yesterday while waiting for Shawn was read an article I had printed out titled How the Budda Solved His Marketing Problems hoping it would help me figure out how to earn some extra money with at least one of my talents (reiki, event organizing, my SpiritStones, workshops, something) I won't go into the whole details but what I took away from this is to start practicing a gift mentatily like my friend Wendy does. I am going to go back to doing eveything for free, and take only what people wish to donate if anything and trust in my God to supply all my needs. Money really does change everything and not for the better, I have never gone hungry or homeless the main thing is to get it out there, to heal to help to teach and to guide. And like Beth advised when I wrote to her and to Wendy for advice on this I will use my intuition to sort out the takers, to know when to help and when to stand back and let people help themselves. Its time to fine tune and know where and when and how to help and also know when to step back and let people learn to do some for themselves.
Today take a look around your own life, do you have parasites clinging to you who never give back or help out? Are you helping the ones who really do need your help and giving to them when they are in need? The bible says cast not your pearls before swine and it means don't waste your gifts and your talents, but it also teachs that if a man asks for your coat give him also your cloack too. Pray for guidance to know the difference........
With Love and in the Light, Cassie
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